I like this one. I have used this one before. I have had kids goofing off or hitting other kids and i pulled them aside and asked them why they were doing this. Then i would ask them "What will you do to achieve this, or to accomplish this?" It lets them think about their actions a little bit more.
Lyn and Nate both have super responses to this one. If you think about it, there are a gazillion things that we won't do but what counts is what we WILL do.
This goes back to the thought of REPLACING a negative behavior with a positive one. I find this to be helpful when I'm trying to change a behavior/habit in my own life. I can see how it wold really make the students think about what they can do instead.
I have a wonderful friend who is behaviorist - he is continually reminding me that the only way to truly change a behavior is to replace it with another behavior. It is so very true, it isn't simply stopping the negative behavior that makes the difference but the positive one that it is replaced it with.
I really like this one and it does get their focus on what they will do rather than what not to do. This actually works for all of us-teachers, too. Very positive.
I find it takes some work to get kids to state things in a positive way. For example, whenever I ask students about book care rules, they start with all of the don'ts- don't throw them, don't tear the pages, etc. Even when I keep asking what should you do with them, it takes a while to get the kids to state things differently. I usually have to say you're telling me all the things not to do, tell me the things you will do. Sometimes I need to give examples to help them catch on.
I need to do this as well! The negatives have always been there and it's hard to change. I need to remember to say," next time this situation arises what will you do"?
I never thought about this. "I won't do that again" is only half of the issue. The subject is left hanging. By focusing on "what will you do instead?" helps them actually redirect and think about how they might deal with issues that come up in a more positive way. I want to try this next time something comes up.
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I like this one. I have used this one before. I have had kids goofing off or hitting other kids and i pulled them aside and asked them why they were doing this. Then i would ask them "What will you do to achieve this, or to accomplish this?" It lets them think about their actions a little bit more.
I think this is a great to turn the negative response into a positive answer.I am stuck at times with old language patterns.
Lyn and Nate both have super responses to this one. If you think about it, there are a gazillion things that we won't do but what counts is what we WILL do.
This goes back to the thought of REPLACING a negative behavior with a positive one. I find this to be helpful when I'm trying to change a behavior/habit in my own life. I can see how it wold really make the students think about what they can do instead.
I have a wonderful friend who is behaviorist - he is continually reminding me that the only way to truly change a behavior is to replace it with another behavior. It is so very true, it isn't simply stopping the negative behavior that makes the difference but the positive one that it is replaced it with.
I really like this one and it does get their focus on what they will do rather than what not to do. This actually works for all of us-teachers, too. Very positive.
I find it takes some work to get kids to state things in a positive way. For example, whenever I ask students about book care rules, they start with all of the don'ts- don't throw them, don't tear the pages, etc. Even when I keep asking what should you do with them, it takes a while to get the kids to state things differently. I usually have to say you're telling me all the things not to do, tell me the things you will do. Sometimes I need to give examples to help them catch on.
I need to do this as well! The negatives have always been there and it's hard to change. I need to remember to say," next time this situation arises what will you do"?
I never thought about this. "I won't do that again" is only half of the issue. The subject is left hanging. By focusing on "what will you do instead?" helps them actually redirect and think about how they might deal with issues that come up in a more positive way. I want to try this next time something comes up.
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